Nearly all of us have been conditioned to believe that life is supposed look a certain way.  You are expected to be a certain way and do specific things, and definitely do not(!!) let anyone know that you don’t have it all figured out. Show up nicely packaged all the time, don’t burden anyone else with your life, and maybe just avoid your sh!t all together. That is the message that we get over and over. We are inadvertently (hopefully) taught to hide our sh!t, that nobody else has any, and, there is definitely something wrong since we do have it. Then, we think we have to wait until we get our whole thing figured out before we can do the thing.  Simultaneously, we ignore our mess, because to exist in this world, we can’t show up with our sh!t! So, it gets suppressed or avoided in order to maintain our perfect packaging. The worst part is we become so conditioned to be uncomfortable with discomfort (our own and other’s) that we expect the same perfection from everyone else and we become part of the system that makes us think we are only fit for “human consumption” when we show up in our perfect little packaging.